Definition of Karma is

Definition of Karma is "any action - physical or mental - done with an attachment of "I" in it". "I" here means the body. In simpler words, Karma means any action that I say "I have done". Here it is important to distinguish between "I" and "Self". "I" means the body and "Self" means the soul.

There is a universal saying "Every action has a reaction". Gitaji seems to accept this. Hence for every action we will get something in return (Karma Phal - Fruit of Karma), be it good or bad. Obviously the fruit of Karma will be good for good deeds and bad for bad deeds.

Now, the question arises, how can one live wuthout Karma. At this point of time, I would like to give an example. I went to a saint and sought her guidance as to how can we achieve God. She most graciously advised that we need not do anything to achieve God. I was baffled. I thought that she may not be considering me worthy to deserve an answer. However, I once again asked the same question at her lotus feet, as to how can one achieve God without doing anything (Sadhan). After a little while, she said "after all what do you do any way". This put me thinking as to what was the secret hidden in her words of wisdom. I then got an answer from my inner self that I am the soul and not the body. Hence all actions done by the body are not done by my true self. This is the crux of Karma. So long as we will do any activity with an attachment of "I" (the BODY), those Karmas will invite Karma Phal.

Since as a beginner, it is difficult to differenciate between "I" and "Self", may I suggest that we may start with Good Deeds. Different people can define good deeds differently. Hence I would like to clarify that there are three "Gunas" - Sattvik, Rasjasik and Tamasik. Sattvik actions lift us up and bring peace in our mind. Examples of Sattvik actions are

- Giving something to a needy, who is completly an unknown person. I say "Unknown" because in his case we will not expect anything in retunn at any time in life.

- Sit alone and read Gitaji and it's Teeka (Discourse)

Similarly, Rajasik actions are the normal day to day actions that we take, keeping in mind that we do not take any action with an intention to hurt anyone. It does not mean that no one should get hurt but the intension should not be there to hurt.

Lastly the Tamasik actions are those that lead to lethargy, sluggishness etc. Examples are - Intoxication, Gambling, Killing for pleasure or food etc.

There in nothing that we can do to change our Karma. What we have sowed, we will have to reap. What we can do is not to have future karmas and also not suffer from our old Karmas. This is a very advanced stage and may be very difficult for a beginner to understand. Hence, my strong recommendation to my fellow sadhaks is to keep on reading commentaries on Gitaji and keep contemplating on same. After all "Krishnam Vandey Jagatgurum"

We should ask four questions in our relationship

4 questions should ask in our relationship.


Something that each one of us cherished and very sweet to deep into our heart is love. We need every individuals to love and to be loved. In fact I say there is only one ship that never sink is the genuine meaningful relationship. It's quite amazing though how something that hold so sacred and so high value to it, it's often so neglected and abused in our relationship. One of the fact is that bring distance and bitterness is giving corrective feedback.  When we try to correct someone that's a bitterness in heart to whom the person we are trying to correct. Sometimes the person distances himself of his self from us.
How we should give a corrective feedback in relationship?
In order to correct someone or say something to someone which is not pleasant for someone then we try to ask 4 question to ourselves?

1. Am I the right person to correct other individual?
And who is the right person? Sometimes I say every women has only one best child in the world and that is her child and every man thinks that there is only one best women in the world and that is his wife. Can any man give a corrective  feedback to another person's wife? Can any parent give a corrective feedback to someone else's child?  Therefore when we say are you the right person? We should ask ourselves the question Am I relative? Am I a friend? Am I an authority in any way to give a corrective feedback? If answer is yes move towards 2nd question

2. Do you  have a right motive to correct?
Very often the motive in correcting others is settling our old accounts instead of actually serve person by helping the person what wrong he or she is doing. In giving corrective feedback we should have a very high sense of conscious, we should introspect and come to the conclusion when I say something to the person it's actually serve the person and not to settle any old accounts.

3. Do you actually know a right way to give corrective feedback?
A lot of times people are okay with taking corrections but the way the correction is expressed is so crose,  so blunts and so abusive can actually create a lot of harm to the person and the person switches off for taking such feedbacks.  Thus many times I say when we try to correct an issue, issue is only about 10% and 90% is about wrong tone of voice. If we just have a right tone of voice and if we say by right  way then lot of people are okay to handle it.  Our feedback, our correction, and our advices will sinks deeper.

4. Is it the right time to give a  feedback?
We should ask ourselves this question is it the right time to give a corrective feedback? Many times I says we should not express our anger, we should explain our anger or feelings. When you express what we feel then it's unpleasant and when we explain what we feels people can understand.  When heads are hot and we upset when we deal with a straightway feedback because it's a wrong timing because we expressed. And when we allow our heads to cool down you won't express but you will explain to say. Therefore remember 4 things in your life. If you want to ever ever ever give a corrective feedback.
1.  Are you the right person?
2. Do you have the right motive?
3. Do you have the right way?
4. Is it the right time?

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 पति पत्नी सावधानीपूर्वक पवित्र जीवन जिएँ तो सन्यासाश्रम जैसा आनन्द गृहस्थाश्रम मेँ भी मिल सकता है । पवित्र जीवन जीने वाले दम्पत्ति साधु सन्तोँ की सेवा करके परमात्मा को पुत्र रुप मेँ पाकर अपनी गोद मेँ उनका लालन पालन करेँगे । जबकि सन्यासी मात्र ब्रह्मचिँतन मेँ ही लीन रहेगा ।
गृहस्थावस्था मेँ ध्यान रखना चाहिए कि पत्नी कामभोग का नहीँ , धर्म का साधन है । पत्नी तो गृहस्थाश्रम की सहायिका है । पत्नी संग सत्संग बने तभी गृहस्थाश्रम मे दिव्यता आती है । गृहस्थ धर्म को बनाये रखता है इसीलिए सन्यासी भी गृहस्थ के आँगन मेँ आता है । अतः गृहस्थाश्रम श्रेष्ठ है । पति और पत्नी दोनो सुपात्र होँ तो धर्म पालन हो सकेगा । गृहस्थ को सावधान रहना चाहिए कि कहीँ उससे पापाचार न हो जाय । उसे अन्दर से अनासक्त रहकर बाहर से सभी से प्रेम करना चाहिए । जो पात्र मेँ थाली मे है वह सभी कुछ अपना नहीँ है किन्तु जितना पेट मे समा सकता है , उतना ही अपना है , पेट मे जो गया है उसमेँ जितना पच सकता है उतना ही अपना है ।
गृहस्थाश्रमी को न तो अधिक कठोर होना चाहिए और न अधिक सरल ।