4 questions should ask in our relationship.
Something that each one of us cherished and very sweet to deep into our heart is love. We need every individuals to love and to be loved. In fact I say there is only one ship that never sink is the genuine meaningful relationship. It's quite amazing though how something that hold so sacred and so high value to it, it's often so neglected and abused in our relationship. One of the fact is that bring distance and bitterness is giving corrective feedback. When we try to correct someone that's a bitterness in heart to whom the person we are trying to correct. Sometimes the person distances himself of his self from us.
How we should give a corrective feedback in relationship?
In order to correct someone or say something to someone which is not pleasant for someone then we try to ask 4 question to ourselves?
1. Am I the right person to correct other individual?
And who is the right person? Sometimes I say every women has only one best child in the world and that is her child and every man thinks that there is only one best women in the world and that is his wife. Can any man give a corrective feedback to another person's wife? Can any parent give a corrective feedback to someone else's child? Therefore when we say are you the right person? We should ask ourselves the question Am I relative? Am I a friend? Am I an authority in any way to give a corrective feedback? If answer is yes move towards 2nd question
2. Do you have a right motive to correct?
Very often the motive in correcting others is settling our old accounts instead of actually serve person by helping the person what wrong he or she is doing. In giving corrective feedback we should have a very high sense of conscious, we should introspect and come to the conclusion when I say something to the person it's actually serve the person and not to settle any old accounts.
3. Do you actually know a right way to give corrective feedback?
A lot of times people are okay with taking corrections but the way the correction is expressed is so crose, so blunts and so abusive can actually create a lot of harm to the person and the person switches off for taking such feedbacks. Thus many times I say when we try to correct an issue, issue is only about 10% and 90% is about wrong tone of voice. If we just have a right tone of voice and if we say by right way then lot of people are okay to handle it. Our feedback, our correction, and our advices will sinks deeper.
4. Is it the right time to give a feedback?
We should ask ourselves this question is it the right time to give a corrective feedback? Many times I says we should not express our anger, we should explain our anger or feelings. When you express what we feel then it's unpleasant and when we explain what we feels people can understand. When heads are hot and we upset when we deal with a straightway feedback because it's a wrong timing because we expressed. And when we allow our heads to cool down you won't express but you will explain to say. Therefore remember 4 things in your life. If you want to ever ever ever give a corrective feedback.
1. Are you the right person?
2. Do you have the right motive?
3. Do you have the right way?
4. Is it the right time?
Something that each one of us cherished and very sweet to deep into our heart is love. We need every individuals to love and to be loved. In fact I say there is only one ship that never sink is the genuine meaningful relationship. It's quite amazing though how something that hold so sacred and so high value to it, it's often so neglected and abused in our relationship. One of the fact is that bring distance and bitterness is giving corrective feedback. When we try to correct someone that's a bitterness in heart to whom the person we are trying to correct. Sometimes the person distances himself of his self from us.
How we should give a corrective feedback in relationship?
In order to correct someone or say something to someone which is not pleasant for someone then we try to ask 4 question to ourselves?
1. Am I the right person to correct other individual?
And who is the right person? Sometimes I say every women has only one best child in the world and that is her child and every man thinks that there is only one best women in the world and that is his wife. Can any man give a corrective feedback to another person's wife? Can any parent give a corrective feedback to someone else's child? Therefore when we say are you the right person? We should ask ourselves the question Am I relative? Am I a friend? Am I an authority in any way to give a corrective feedback? If answer is yes move towards 2nd question
2. Do you have a right motive to correct?
Very often the motive in correcting others is settling our old accounts instead of actually serve person by helping the person what wrong he or she is doing. In giving corrective feedback we should have a very high sense of conscious, we should introspect and come to the conclusion when I say something to the person it's actually serve the person and not to settle any old accounts.
3. Do you actually know a right way to give corrective feedback?
A lot of times people are okay with taking corrections but the way the correction is expressed is so crose, so blunts and so abusive can actually create a lot of harm to the person and the person switches off for taking such feedbacks. Thus many times I say when we try to correct an issue, issue is only about 10% and 90% is about wrong tone of voice. If we just have a right tone of voice and if we say by right way then lot of people are okay to handle it. Our feedback, our correction, and our advices will sinks deeper.
4. Is it the right time to give a feedback?
We should ask ourselves this question is it the right time to give a corrective feedback? Many times I says we should not express our anger, we should explain our anger or feelings. When you express what we feel then it's unpleasant and when we explain what we feels people can understand. When heads are hot and we upset when we deal with a straightway feedback because it's a wrong timing because we expressed. And when we allow our heads to cool down you won't express but you will explain to say. Therefore remember 4 things in your life. If you want to ever ever ever give a corrective feedback.
1. Are you the right person?
2. Do you have the right motive?
3. Do you have the right way?
4. Is it the right time?
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